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Is he afraid to pursue me or should the fact that we’re co-workers not affect whether or not he pursues me?

Don’t answer if you‘re against dating co-workers. I’m aware of the pros and cons, and I’m willing to take a risk since it’s a college job. I know my boss isn’t against coworkers dating either, just as long as we do work when we’re on the clock.

Anyway, I am obviously interested in my co-worker and I think he may like me back (he at the very LEAST finds me attractive), but he hasn’t pursued me or anything, which is making me question if he likes me or not. He pursued me over the summer when I was out of state (this is what made me think he was initially interested), but when I came back for school he just stopped pursuing me. What gives? Is he afraid of me possibly rejecting him? Because that’s what I’m afraid of. I’m too shy to make a straight-forward move incase he rejects me and was just “flirting for the heck of it” this whole time. He’s presented so many signs of liking me that I find it weird he hasn’t asked me out to lunch (or even something more casual than that) yet.

Does this guy like me or is he just messing with me? Why would a girl ever say this?

Hey there!
I’d appreciate it if you read the whole thing, and +10 to the best answer. I wouldn’t waste my time writing this if it didn’t mean anything. I am just wondering if this guy genuinely likes me or is messing with me because I don’t want to get hurt later.

There is this guy that I like in one of my college classes. Let’s call him Derek, he seemed interested in me, or was very nice to me even though I didn’t know him very well. He was protective when I was crying in class one time, and insulted a girl who was playing this song (which would further upset me; Katy perry- fireworks). So there’s been a strong attraction to him… didn’t know how he feels about me though, because he gave me the strong signs for a couple of days we did see each other (like 4 times in a week.) Then he stopped showing them. (It might have something to do with my other guy friend, Let’s name this guy Lucas, and me liking Lucas before. Derek might be confused that I’m still into Luke. But Lucas told me to get over him for the past 6 months… so Lucas shouldn’t have any role in this. But I feel like it’s too late, since Derek gave strong signals last week and I didn’t reciprocate clearly last week.

Yesterday, they were having lunch on this bench/table area, and my friend and I went over there because I wanted to talk to Derek. I asked him how he did on his presentation we both had last week. He said he got a really good grade, and he asked me what I got, and I said “_” which was not bad but not good like his. I said, “you were really good.” And he was eating, but he was starring at me from where he was sitting. Lucas was beside him and a girl (let’s call her ashley) beside lucas.

Derek was like, I’m not sure why she gave me that grade, and “You were good too but idk why she didn’t give you more.” He thinks he got better grade because the professor adores him, so he said, “Let me tell you a secret.” I didn’t hear it the 1st time he said it. I said, “what?” and moved my body so I can hear him and he repeated “The professor and I are having an affair, we’re planning to get married next year.”He said smirking. And I obviously knew he was joking, so was laughing. He was smiling a bit. Lucas and Derek exchanged some communication. There was this huge plant in between Derek and I. I kind of stepped back to lean against the wall, hiding behind the plant (LOL!). I don’t know why I did this… but it’s funny. Derek couldn’t look at me from this perspective, yet when we were talking, he’d actually move his body, and tilt his head away from the plant, so he’d glance at me several times this way… He’d raise his body and I found that as a good thing, to look at me and have eye contact while talking. Lucas gave some subtle “laugh-like” facial expressions.
Derek said he thinks the reason he did so well was because of the bow-tie he wore that day. And I responded, “Oh yeah, the bow-tie definitely did the trick.”
“You see, I dressed up really nicely, and I guess she though it was extra effort” said derek looking at me.
“Hey I dressed up too, I wore that shirt!”
“IDK I think prof likes bow-ties.”
“You‘re right why didn’t I wear one of those ties…”
“Yeah you def. should’ve worn a bow-tie, then she would have given you an __ too.”
“Oh of course… why didn’t I wear a tie or bow-tie with my shirt? You‘re right.” I was laughing at this point. He was too. And everyone else was just smiling to themselves, and my friend Nancy and I were also glancing at each other. Do you think Derek and I were flirting with each other? I’ve never flirted with a guy in front of others… so this was a first for me.

Meanwhile all this happened, the girl Ashley suddenly out of nowhere started saying, “Derek I’m sexually attracted to you.”
And Derek didn’t fully hear her, because he was still talking to me. But I noticed in class that they are friends, and derek calls her names sometimes. Ashley is also older than Lucas and Derek. I really didn’t understand what she meant when she said that. I was really confused by her action.

But she said, “I’m going to talk to Lucas and then I’m going to sleep with Derek.” She looked at me when she said this… and I was like smiling but like…. umm. I looked at my friend and she was like, “I have no idea whats going on here.” Derek heard her this time, and goes, “WTF ashley… what’s wrong with you?”
And she said, “Derek I’m sexually attracted to you. I want to sleep with you.” I really didn’t understand what happened there, or if there was an inside joke she was referring to.

I wondered later if she said that, because I was there and wanted to see my reaction. Or if they know som
I wondered later if she said that, because I was there and wanted to see my reaction. Or if they know something I don’t. What do you think? Do you think Derek might like me or is messing with me? How should I show Derek that I’m interested?
Thanks!

Additional info:
Times he gave the strong signs, we were alone. So, like he’d stare into my eyes… and I’d look up at him then fix my glasses to get a better look at him, but he was still gazing into my eyes with a smile.

And another time, when we were in class, I was speaking to professor. He got up and went to the door, but before he left for the restroom or w/e, we starred at me from across the room with a big smile on his face. And I could not help but smile back. It was so distracting, I looked away from professor even though she was speaking to me!

Lucas says he has someone! He said so, for 5 years or something… that’s why he told me to get over him.

PS I have an extremely good memory, if you‘re wondering why I remember all this

I’m not sure if he really has feelings for me?

I’m in junior high, and my crush has been showing me signs that he likes me (he texted me lyrics from a love song, he told me he loves me kind of in a joking way, he was very loving to me, he’s been wanting to come over to my house, etc). He texted me a couple days ago telling me how he did on his tests (I think he wanted to share his happiness with someone from the look of things), and he asked me for help about homework, but the conversation ends so quickly (people tell me some boys don’t like texting so much). I kept thinking of him as my boyfriend, but it’s not like he asked me out yet or anything (we have graduation and entrance exams coming up in March), so I’m not sure if he really loves me or not. I’m giving him chocolate tomorrow for Valentine’s, with a bracelet I made and a card that says “I love you” (he knows about it and it seems he’s looking forward to it), but I’ve been losing confidence recently.
Do you think he has feelings for me?

Sorry, it got a little long.
Thank you

I’m not sure if he has feelings for me?

I’m in junior high, and my crush has been showing me signs that he likes me (he texted me lyrics from a love song, he told me he loves me kind of in a joking way, he was very loving to me, he’s been wanting to come over to my house, etc). He texted me a couple days ago telling me how he did on his tests (I think he wanted to share his happiness with someone from the look of things), and he asked me for help about homework, but the conversation ends so quickly (people tell me some boys don’t like texting so much). I kept thinking of him as my boyfriend, but it’s not like he asked me out yet or anything (we have graduation and entrance exams coming up in March), so I’m not sure if he really loves me or not. I’m giving him chocolate tomorrow for Valentine’s, with a bracelet I made and a card that says “I love you” (he knows about it and it seems he’s looking forward to it), but I’ve been losing confidence recently.
Is giving him the bracelet and card not a good idea?
My friend keeps telling me that he definitely likes me, but do you think he has feelings for me?

Sorry, it got a little long.
Thank you

10 points–Does he really like me or is he just flirting for fun?

Please don’t answer if you‘re against co-workers dating, I won’t read it. Thanks!

I’m interested in dating my coworker, but I just want to make sure I’m not getting my hopes up or interpreting his flirting the wrong way. He’s definitely been flirting with me, but I don’t know if it’s just for the fun of it or if he actually means something by it. He recently broke up with his girlfriend (which wasn’t *superrr* serious, but it was of average seriousness), but he flirted with me for a month or so before the actual break up.

I mainly only see him at work (98% of the time), but when I was gone over the summer and not on campus, he texted me a few different times asking when I’d be back in town so we could hang out (we never text, so this came a surprise)…but we never did actually get around to hanging out (perhaps because he had a girlfriend at the time? or perhaps because he was just being friendly?).

Aside from that, he flirts with me at work a decent amount. He often squishes my shoulder or upper arm a few times when he walks by me at my desk. He’s even done this to the side of my waist on a few occasions when I was standing. He also seems to take note of my presence at work (like when I walk into a room)–by smiling, waving, winking or touching me like I described above. There also seems to be a certain look in his eyes when he talks to me or sees me

He’s probably not flirting just for the sake of flirting, right? He knows I’m not easy…there’s no way he thinks I am either. What’s really making me question this is the fact that we haven’t moved to an “outside of work” context yet, despite him showing so many signs of interest.